I was raised in Southern California and I am the oldest of 7 kids from my Mom and Dad and then 3 more kids from my Dad and Stepmom. My Dad was a Los Angeles Police Department officer or detective most of my childhood. My Mom was stay at home mom and homemaker/referee. I was raised Christian and a big part of my life is following my religious and spiritual beliefs.
Despite the blessings I had, I struggled with depression starting in 5th or 6th grade. My depression was to the point many times before my teen years ended that I wanted to die. My depression and suicidal thoughts stuck with me for years. I also fell into addictive patterns starting around that time.
I know what depression, addiction, and suicidal thoughts are like.
Later in life in the 90’s I was diagnosed as “off the chart ADHD.” The Dr. said he wasn’t sure “how I had any semblance of a life.” I also have a hypersensitive startle response or PTSD. When I was in my early thirties I ended up in the emergency room from seizures. I was on seventeen medications at that time.
I have learned how to overcome each and every one of these things.
Today I am happy and grateful to be alive. I am successful at many things. I am healthy, powerful, and accomplished. I don’t need medications.
I uncovered how to change my life, I’m healthy, happy and you can be also.
Next thing that is very important to me is my family, especially my wife Evelyn, she has been my best friend of more than 20 years. We have had our ups and downs, talked about divorce more than once. But each time we have immediately taken action and changed what we did, so we improved our relationship.
Evelyn (my wife and best friend of over 25 years) and I
I have two boys Nicholas in his 20’s and Wesley still a teen. Both boys have learned from their dad some of the things that I have struggled with. I have yelled and fought with both. But they are wonderful boys: Nic is halfway through his service as a missionary for our church. Wes is making a difference and has a YouTube video on bullying he put out after losing a friend to suicide.
Both are wonderful people and I am proud to be their father.
Lastly, I want to talk about our other kids, my wife and I have housed over 20 kids through foster, proctor care, foreign exchange programs or just kids that have no other place to go.
Each one came into my life and I spent time with them, I learned to love them. I taught them things, I learned things from them.
This is one of my proudest achievements the people that are out there that know that I love them. I have proven to them I am in their corner. Even though I am not in touch with all of them, throughout my throughout my life I think of each of them with love and hope that their lives are better for our relationship.
Safely walking people through improving their lives, getting the results they want, and overcoming what has happened to them is in my DNA.
Now let’s talk about my training and what I do.
I have been studying relationships and people for over 30 years now. I started reading self- help books and studying life skills as a teen. I have a BA in Psychology, my postgraduate studies are in Mental Health Counseling and I have been trained in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and other therapies.
I can help you with what you are struggling with and how to overcome it.
I am a volunteer with the Veterans of Foreign Wars, the Marine Corps League and I volunteer to give my platelets every couple weeks as I am able to donate to the local Children’s Hospital.
I enjoy serving people. I love what I do, I love my life!
If you want to feel the same about yours let’s get started!
I have the know-how to work with things like:
- Drug and alcohol abuse
- Death or passing of a loved one
- Acting out sexually
- Eating disorders
- Suicide attempts and ideology
- Depression, cognitive disorders and bipolar issues too…