By Akia Taylor and Ken Gerber
So how do you set and achieve goals? What do you want to accomplish? Do you feel like you can accomplish goals and get the things that you want? If you’re like many people your goals are over three days after New Year’s day. So if you’re like most people you’ve trained yourself. You have set “Goals” meaning you have set a vague picture of some future behavior or situation that you want. You have done this time and again and more times than not you have not meet that vision you have of your future. Each time you have not achieved this vision it has affected your vision of yourself and your ability to accomplish any “goals. Does any of this sound familiar?
I go to a friend and ask him to go work out with me all the time. I get a no from him for months. While he gains weight and starts feeling pain from not moving. Why? Because he has this memory of a painful experience working out. So he lets that pain stop him from having health and fitness due to his painful memory. The physical pain has been gone for years but the mental pain is still directing his actions. He is unable to move towards the goal or vision and to build an amazing spark as he holds on to this painful memory. Have you had any experiences like this?
So if this is how you have set up goals and the view you have of goals how do we change that and get you accomplishing things and moving in the direction that you want to go? So first off we want to change what you see as goals.
What is there in your life that you accomplish each day that is important to your well being and moving in the direction you want to go? What are little steps that will change your direction by just a degree or so? What little thing can you do each day to get to where you want to go? Key word is little! If you want to work out make the first step to walk to the end of your driveway. That is easy and something you can accomplish daily. Once you feel confident in being able to do that walk two doors down the street. Then make it to the end of the block. Building on the fact that you’ve accomplished what you set out to for days.
Be sure to acknowledge what you do no matter how small. As you accomplish these little goals they will create in you an ability to accomplish larger goals over time. As you see what you can accomplish you will build confidence and see the “Amazing Life” you have and the option of ”Sharing your Spark”with those you come in contact with.
Goal setting is something that we do everyday but when it comes to planning for true success there are a few things that you can do to make a difference in your ultimate outcome.
- Be careful not to take on too many projects at one time.
As parents, employees, students, spouses…we believe, as a society, that multitasking is the best way to get the most done in your day. I like to compare this to the quality vs. quantity debate. While you can certainly do multiple things at a time you have to be honest with yourself and decide if you did those things well.
Once you have decided which projects you would like to focus on first you need to create a plan to hold yourself accountable.
- Commit your goals to paper
Writing down your goals is beneficial because writing them down makes them visible. when you make your goals visible they are more real than having them float around in your head with the 50 million other things going on up there. Another benefit to writing down your goals is that you become more committed to them. There is a kind of finality in a goal once it is on paper. You are reducing your own wiggle room.
- Use a vision board to stay aware of your goals
I heard about vision boards for decades. I could not understand the benefit of pasting cut outs from a magazine onto a board to hang in my home. I rolled my eyes at the thought. I figured hanging ART would be prettier. And in all the decades that I’d heard of vision boards I have NEVER, not even on this day, walked into the home of a friend, family member or friend of a friend that had a vision board hung and on display in their home…EVER!
4 months ago while having a conversation with my coach I realized that in at least 3 of our conversations she mentioned her vision board. And in that moment I decided that I was going to do it. I was going to assemble and display a vision board! My coach must have felt my energy and decided to incorporate the importance of a vision board in our discussion. But I was already committed. I was in. So I did it and it was one of the best personal and professional decisions I have made with regard to setting and committing to my goals.
- Quantify your goals with measurable detail
Vague ideas are the enemy of effective goal setting. This is an opportunity for you to squeeze the last little bit of wiggle room out of your goals so that you can fully commit to your success. Where possible, add dates, times, amounts and the like to your goals. This will also help you measure your success and to determine what may have happened if you fell short.
How can creating goal change your life and help you to build an amazing life?